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Are We More Susceptible to Shame?

Could it be that our cultural emphasis on overcoming/avoiding SHAME is not because we are more aware of shame’s negative effects, but because as a culture we have lost the ability to REGULATE SHAME?

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Surrender to Love is Dangerous

And too often Christians, leaders and disciples, replace surrendering to authorities and obedience for surrendering to love. This opens wide the door for abuse. 

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Enemy Love as Forgiveness; or, Unsystematic Thought’s on God’s Love #6

Jesus breaks the “in group” bias of forgiveness for those like us and the “out group” fault-finding of those others.   In the presence of an enemy, will we… • Attack, or attune?• Escalate, or empathize?• War, or reconcile? It is clear how God responded… “While we enemies, we were reconciled to God through the […]

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Our Traumatized Social Nervous System

TV, talks shows, Op-Eds, and especially social media, are shrinking our windows of tolerance, passing on and amplifying messages of crisis and calamity,

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3 Tragic Results of the Disembodied Faith of SBC Leadership; or, Why the Truth of Sexual Abuse is Never a Distraction

Thinking the truth of sexual abuse would be a distraction means we don’t know the gospel of the crucified and risen Lord, and that we have a disembodied faith.  The disembodied faith of SBC leadership causes 3 tragic results… • The debasement of bodies (primarily of women and minorities)• The distortion of truth (as a […]

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While We Were Still Enemies: or, Unsystematic Thought’s on God’s Love #5

As I continue reflecting and growing in my awareness of God’s love for me, I’m thinking of enemies. Seems Christians on both sides are done with their enemies on the other side, would rather they just disappeared (or were destroyed). But God demonstrates a different kind of enemy-love.  What Enemies Reveal Like weakness, the presence […]

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When “Do Not Worry!” isn’t Harmful but Helpful

Jesus tells—commands us—not to worry. But this isn’t about attacking our emotions. But attaching to God. This command isn’t about changing how we feel. It’s about changing our perspective.  This command isn’t about denying our emotions. It’s about shifting how we see and what we seek. This shift comes from looking down, up, and around.  Read Luke […]

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On God’s Unique Kind of Love; or, Unsystematic Thought’s on God’s Love #4

In an age when everyone has their own take on things, when in ancient times each god had their own emphasis and activity, it is striking the God would demonstrate his “own love” to us.  God had to actively demonstrate his love to us because otherwise we wouldn’t believe it, or trust it, or rely […]

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Death is Exploring from God, to God, with God

Death, for Christians, is the ultimate act of exploring, travelled from the secure base of attachment in God. In peace and joy we enter the unknown, knowing—even there—God is WITH US. When we are secure in God then God is both our safe haven and secure base. And from this secure base we can move […]

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Why Asking Questions is NOT a Mark of Childlike Faith

Asking questions is not as a matter of the mind. But as a longing of the heart. They are bids for connection, for relationship.